In today's episode, we show you the cheat code to building deep relationships with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael. 

Discover the secret language of connection in today’s episode as AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael dive into the concept of emotional bids — the small, powerful moments that make or break our relationships. Why are emotional bids so vital to our personal and professional lives? How can we recognize them, and what happens when we ignore them? AJ and Johnny break down the science of emotional bids, share practical strategies to strengthen your connections, and reveal how simple shifts in awareness can transform the way you interact with others. Whether you're looking to deepen your personal relationships or enhance your influence at work, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you build lasting, meaningful bonds.

What to Listen For

Introduction – 00:00:00

• What are emotional bids, and how do they serve as subtle invitations to connect?


• Why do so many relationships fail due to a lack of awareness about emotional bids?


• Why is recognizing emotional bids a critical skill for relationship success?


• How does ignoring your partner’s emotional bids lead to disconnection and eventually the end of the relationship?

The Science of Emotional Bids – 0:07:30

• How can you predict the success or failure of a relationship based on 3 minutes of interaction?


• What role does active listening play in identifying emotional bids during everyday conversations?


• Why is it essential to focus on the emotions behind the words, rather than just the words themselves?


• What strategies can make you more memorable and likable after just one conversation? 

How to Identify Emotional Bids – 0:18:48

• What exactly is an emotional bid and how do you recognize them in conversation or in your relationship?

What are the Most Common Emotional Bids? – 0:27:30

• What are common types of emotional bids, such as bids for attention or emotional support?


• What does it mean to "turn toward" an emotional bid, and why is it the foundation of lasting relationships?


• How can "turning away" or "turning against" emotional bids contribute to relationship breakdowns?


• What are the three ways to respond to emotional bids, and which response guarantees failure?

Leverage Emotional Bids for the Strongest Relationship – 0:48:02

• What simple exercises can help you become more aware of emotional bids in your daily interactions?


• How can a lack of attention to emotional bids lead to divorce or long-term relationship issues?


• Why do emotional bids reflect vulnerability, and how does responding positively encourage deeper connection and trust?

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